Look at portion sizes before you order
Look for vegetable based dishes like steamed vegetables, stir fries and salad
Use that as your main course with an appetizer size portion of optional animal protein items, if these are desired but not part of the vegetable dish.
Ask for a minimum of oil to be used in preparatio
Grilled, steamed, poached or baked may include less fat.
Look for bean dishes like chili or bean soups
Ask for dressings/gravy/sauces on the side
Use vinegar and a small amount of oil instead, if available
Split an entrée (if not vegetable based) with a friend
or
Ask for a takeout container and divide the meal before you start eating
Take the excess home for another meal, or give to a person in need
Refuse the bread (if not whole grain) or chips
High cal items before your entrée are tempting but should be resisted. Patience pays!
Take into account the caloric content of alcoholic drinks
Look for lower calorie desserts, or split one with the table.
Low-cal items are usually fruit based, or a sorbet.
Eat slowly, and enjoy each mouthful.
For more helpful social-eating guidelines, read my Party Eating Tips